When I was pregnant with London I had this fairytale idea of what parenting would be like. I of course knew that Mike was going to a a great father and he is. I have very little to complain about in that department. However there is always that one little complaint and this is mine.
I feel like I am London's default parent. Meaning that when he needs anything the responsibility automatically default to me. When London needs a sippy cup or lunch or a diaper changed, the duties always default to ME!
Do any other Moms out there feel this way?
For example, today London was walking around the house playing. I was sitting on the couch writing a grocery list and Mike was watching football. London came up to me (of course) and asked me for some "suess" which I quickly translated into juice.
I looked over at Mike and said "can you find his sippy cup for him?"
To which Mike replied, "Where is it?"
To which I replied (slightly annoyed this time) "I don't know, hence why I asked you to FIND it"
Well in true Mike fashion he said, "He's fine he doesn't need it right now"
So guess what happens at that point? The duty of finding London's sippy cup is then defaulted to ME! I can't just ignore my thirsty little man. He's not fine, he asked for his SUESS!!
Another example, Mike and I are both sitting side by side on the couch. We hear London wake up from his nap. Mike doesn't move and just assumes I will go upstairs and get him. I decided that I would wait a few minutes and see if Mike would actually ever get up to get him. So finally after about 3 minutes Mike looks over at me and says "Are you gonna go get him?"
Really Mike, REALLY!?!?! You do know that as his father you are allowed to go get him out of his bed anytime you would like right? Unfortunately I didn't actually say that to him. I only thought it.
Don't get me wrong, Mike is very helpful when I ask him to do something. I just wish that for once I wouldn't HAVE to ask him for help. I wish he would take on some of the everyday responsibilities when he is home. I get it, he works hard, he really does. He deserves some down time when he is home, but so do I! I often wonder if I would still be the default parent if I worked out of the home? I'm a stay at home mom and my JOB is to take care of London. But I really would like to occasionally be at home AND off duty. I don't want to have to leave the house just to feel like I have clocked out for the day.
Does anyone else feel this way? Maybe I'm a Mom now and this is just the way it is. Please don't think I am complaining about taking care of my lil man. I love that little boy more than anything. I choose to be a stay at home mom so I can spend as much time with him as possible. I really just wish that on the weekends I could sit back and enjoy the family more while doing less of the actual work.